For a start, anxiety levels rise to unexpected levels when facing new challenges as one ages. You think back to how casually one launched oneself into new and exciting ventures in the past and yearn for that same carefree spirit. However, that was the joy, and perhaps innocence, of youth, without the experience of what can, and sometimes does, go wrong. Achieving success with the French Visas was a great confidence booster, but took its toll at the time. I was equally determined to achieve success with the European Pet Passports for the dogs. This certainly caused me a certain amount of stress at the time, but the satisfaction of arriving in Calais and, armed with their new blue Passports, checking the dogs in without a hitch made it all worth while. This was made even more satisfying having watched two people ahead of us being turned away, as they did not have the required paperwork. They were having to find vets in Calais, wait 24 hours following the tapeworm treatment, and rebook all their travel arrangements. I’m not sure how one can control anxiety. Maybe just being aware that half the anxiety is a symptom of the ageing process and not of incompetence(?!), might remind one to take it slowly and steadily, and not be too frustrated by setbacks - which are almost inevitable from our experience!
Having a completely blank page in the diary was for us both an exciting experience. The pattern of every day developed naturally, led by the weather and the need to exercise ourselves and the dogs. Around those two criteria we were able to build in other things, shopping, exploring new places or getting stuck into some reading, writing, drawing, or just ‘thinking’, with a freedom dependent on how we felt on a particular day. This cannot happen in normal life as so much in the diary involves other people and a timetable. Those activities are very important. However, it should be possible to regularly set aside days, or even half days, when what you decide to do is NOT going to be interrupted or postponed! I’m going to try.
We both agreed that understanding, and being pretty comfortable with, modern technology made a big difference to our stay. Most importantly, keeping in regular close communication with family and friends, particularly when there were health issues or any other sort of problem, gave us a peace of mind which would have not been possible if we felt out of touch. Gathering information and problem solving were all made easier with the use of IT.
We have loved being in each other’s company 24/7, enjoyed hours of walking and talking together, and really valued the opportunity to have the time to do this. We often reflected on the fact that at home we are inclined to be like ships that pass in the night, me rushing out the door to be somewhere on time, as he returns home from some other activity, eventually meeting for an evening meal at the end of the day, not really feeling like ‘deep and meaningful’ conversation. There’s not much one can do about that in a full and happy life. Perhaps being aware and also doing most of the dog walks together goes some way to solving this.
I would say we both feel reenergised and rejuvenated by our experience. Yes, there remains still the concern in the back of one’s mind that just around the corner everything could change, but that is almost entirely out of our control and frankly applies at any age to a degree. New experiences are not just for the young! Plans should be tempered by awareness of one’s limitations, and vulnerabilities of age taken into account. But the advantages of stepping off the merry-go-round for a time are huge and totally positive. We’d do it again in a heartbeat - in fact we’re already planning!













